Is Victim The Right Word?
From yesterday’s Daily Reflection;
Trusting Others
“But does trust require that we be blind to other people’s motives or, indeed, to our own? Not at all; this would be folly. Most certainly, we should assess the capacity for harm as well as the capability for good in every person that we would trust. Such a private inventory can reveal the degree of confidence we should extend in any given situation.”
As Bill Sees It, p. 144
The response begins “I am not a victim of others, but rather a victim of my expectations, choices and dishonesty. When I expect others to be what I want them to be and not who they are, when they fail to meet my expectations, I am hurt.”
- (original sense) A living creature which is slain and offered as human or animal sacrifice, usually in a religious rite.
- Anyone who is physically harmed by another.
- An aggrieved or disadvantaged party in a crime (e.g. swindle.)
- A person who suffers any other injury, loss, or damage as a result of a voluntary undertaking.
- An unfortunate person who suffers from a disaster or other adverse circumstance.
Yes, it does look that way! And, apparently I continue to victimize me “when my choices are based on self-centeredness, I find I am lonely and distrustful.”
I change that when “I gain confidence in myself, however, when I practice honesty in all my affairs.”
Plus, I’ve come a long way, grown up quite a bit, “when I search my motives and am honest and trusting, I am aware of the capacity for harm in situations and can avoid those that are harmful.”
[A shame that some self-proclaimed “gurus” say that checking our motives is middle-of-the-road psycho-babble. Yet, there it is - directly from our literature.]
Tags: 6th-step, alcoholics-anonymous, Recovery, sobriety
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