A Dozen Steps

9 opinions for T.I.M.E.

• Mary Christine
  Feb 20, 2007 at 7:20 pm

  Ha! That is what I always think when someone apologizes for being late to a meeting! Like anyone noticed? Or cared?

• Mark
  Feb 20, 2007 at 9:13 pm

  Well MC some never speak to their sponsor either therefore they also don’t learn anything resembling humility.

  Of course we’re helping set them up every time we tell a newcomer they’re the most important person in the room… (gag…)

  AND - then again, too many of us don’t have the nerve to tell them the truth! We are afraid they won’t like us… :)

• mikep
  Feb 21, 2007 at 7:53 am

  ya know my sponsor “doc Vinnie boombatz ” aka Pat D .always late to meeting but never apologizes for it, also not disruptive. It does bother me as well as others , I was told early on {I guess just to get me to meetings }” your meeting does nt start untill you get there” but I was also told there’s a meeting before the meeting and a meeting after the meeting and my ass better be at all 3 if I where going to stand a chance of staying sober for that day as well as being told that for me 90& 90 is something I had only do 4 times a year , and you know I did nt do the math for over a year untill it hit me in a meeting in my second year and I laughed my as off.
  Today I do go to meetings on time before and after the Lords Prayer .

• Mark
  Feb 21, 2007 at 8:24 am

  Heck - I was told if I didn’t stick around for the “Our Father” the meeting didn’t count!

  At least Dr Boombatz doesn’t apologize :)

  How about those who bang chairs around etc. like that goof you told me about the other night with his magnificent 10 yrs “a long time.” Blecch, lol…

  Figures you didn’t do the math, lmao

• mikep
  Feb 21, 2007 at 4:29 pm

  we have several like that , they come in get there coffee sit down while the speaker is sharing and precede to put there hand up , and say “SORRY I’m LATE AND MISSED YOUR QUILIFCATIONS BUT,,at that meeting it happened to be a beginners meeting and were only at under a year and this fellow has 10 years of AA , so we told him to wait and not to my surprise he coped an attitude . but the good thing here is I’m not alone in my view ,and have a lot of fun explaining to people ,it gets me out of my head and hopefully help someone .
  AWW hell its all wonderful got a call from pigeon last night he had got fried after 11yrs w/ this company and is sober 90 days and live with his wife who still drinks and belittles him any chance she gets , but this kids “pink cloud” is thick. that God for the pink cloud ehh.

• Mark
  Feb 22, 2007 at 6:41 am

  Mr P. - There’s a real mouthful in that comment! Let’s see - smack ‘em, don’t call on ‘em, an attitude eh?, tell ‘em we’ll be here when he gets back, alone in your views?, PLEASE Dear God, Thank God you’re not!, da** right - help someone who will someday help another and keep this going… I know you meant “fired” not fried lol… belittles??? naaaah, no one does that do they???, and yes, thank God for the pink cloud! Love ya’ Have a great day… I’m off to get belittled… not!!!

• mikep
  Feb 22, 2007 at 7:23 am

  I got a chance last night to speak on what I perceive hero worship when someone who has already in his life time trying to get sober has Killed a 15 year old boy and then 6 years later Kills a mother and permanently disfiguring her 3 year, then after living in and out of the rooms turns up Dead from and over dose of drugs and alcohol. Sense Sunday I ve been listening to people say what a wonderful person he was if only ? And how sorry they feel for his family and friends , God forgive me but I had it last night , I had to share about how I felt sorry for the little boy who has to grow up without a mother and is reminded every day of what a selfish act has done to him ,and the family that will never know the love of there 15 year old son . My brother took a life from this disease and I don’t ever recall feeling sorry for him , but what I do recall is how I felt that the girl Kelly A was only guilty of going out with a drunk on a date at the age of 19 , and how for years her family keep in touch with mine , perhaps only to keep her in our thoughts but none the less they did nt display any bitterness or anger towards my brother what a lesson I want to be like that family when I go up. And I stand a good chance as long as I don;t let what other people think keep me from sharing whats on my mind that day .
  This person I speak of I;m sure was a nice guy when sober as we all where I got a chance to learn more of him from a woman who’s watched him try and try , he had at one time put 14 years together and from what I’m told most was in fear of losing his job ,with the county
  THERE BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD , GO I
  I pray to God I never know the pain of taking a life .
  I feel compelled to say this just my opinion,and I don’t mean to take anything away from the family of this person for he has 2 adult children.

• Mark
  Feb 22, 2007 at 8:19 am

  Mike, my friend, you, YOU, are a true testament to the power of recovery. Even when you’re not perfect you continue to strive for it, knowing, KNOWING, you’ll never reach it!

  Now I know how difficult it was for those folks in one of your Brentwood meetings to finally, finally, tell that one person, whoever it was, that they were tired of feeling sorry for him for he had done something similar and kept sharing about it but never changed. His motive was the sorrow - poor poor me. He wanted an excuse to drink again and they didn’t give it to him. And THAT’S what we ought to pay attention to!!!!!

  Later - gotta go to work… oh, and get belittled… yeah, I know (famous last words - “I Know”)

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